The Princess Guide: How to get a man to treat you like royalty

Unlike a real princess, who is born into her entitlement, it must be earned in the world of dating - it’s a lengthy process, but worth it when a man treats you like royalty.

Princess treatment isn’t just about being gifted luxury items; it’s also about protecting her and whether you’re even the kind of man up for the job. It means leading without being asked to, being humble, having a high emotional intelligence, not letting her go to sleep upset, finding simple ways to make her life easier, actively listening, treating her with respect, compliments, and being her support.

When asking males what a female has to do to earn her tiara, most said to “respect me like you would a prince or king”.

These days, to receive princess treatment, men also want a taste of royalty - and who can blame them?

Other than a few who take it too far and demand princess treatment themselves, we can understand why men want the same amount of respect in the relationship.

On the topic of receiving gifts, etc., 10 men told VavaViolet Magazine they expect sex, and a lot of it, in return. So, ladies, part of the process is very transactional.

Much like a princess is expected to bear children, you are expected to deliver sexually. Whether this is right or wrong is debatable, but much of a relationship is up for compromise.

Another tip from the gentlemen is to “shop around for this guy”, as not every man likes to give his woman princess treatment, can afford it, or can keep up with your needs.

One man said: “If you want to find a prince, you'd better be already of princess status when you meet.”

A second added: “Treat him like a king. If it’s not reciprocated, then he doesn’t have the ability. Easy peasy.”

Wanting to feel valued and special is completely fair—but the main key isn’t “making” a guy treat you like a princess. It’s about choosing someone who naturally wants to and setting the tone for how you expect to be treated.

Here’s how to approach it in a way that actually works:

Set your standards early (without overexplaining)

Pay attention to how he treats you from the beginning. Does he plan dates, check in on you, and show effort? If not, don’t try to “train” him—just recognise that he may not be the right fit.

Don’t over-give to earn treatment

A common mistake is doing everything for him, hoping he’ll reciprocate. That usually backfires. Match effort instead of overextending yourself.

Reward good behaviour, don’t chase bad behaviour

When he does treat you well—plans something thoughtful, listens, shows up—acknowledge it. People repeat what gets appreciated.

Be clear about what you like

You don’t have to be demanding, just direct. For example: “I love when a guy plans dates—it makes me feel really cared for.” That gives him a roadmap without pressure.

Maintain your own life

Confidence and independence are attractive. When your happiness doesn’t depend on him, he’s more likely to step up rather than take you for granted.

Be ready to walk away

This is the most important part. If he consistently doesn’t meet your standards, no amount of effort will “fix” that. The right person won’t need convincing.

Reality check
“Princess treatment” isn’t about constant luxury—it’s about respect, consistency, effort, and emotional care. Someone who values you will want to show that.

Written by VavaViolet Magazine’s Founder and Editor-in-Chief, Sophie Blackman.