"I only date doberman personalities. I want him to look like he could kill people"

As I’ve aged, one major thing has changed about me: my type of men. Nearing my thirties, I like a man who can silence the room with his bark. The type who is protective and serious with everyone, but has a soft side for me. The daddy issues little girl in me oozes over older men who look like they kill people for a living.

You may be wondering what I mean by a “doberman personality”. A "Doberman boyfriend" is a popular internet term describing a male who is protective, loyal, and a strong presence, similar to the characteristics of a Doberman Pinscher dog. You can read more about it here to understand its meaning.

Much like the canine, they are intense, disciplined, and a little intimidating to everyone except you.

The perks of dating one are as follows:

1. They’re not controlling and have struck the perfect balance of being watchful and protective without overstepping the mark. He will walk you to your car without asking and make sure anyone making you uncomfortable backs off.
2. Dobermans bond deeply with their person and are loyal to the core. You won’t question where you stand with him, and he’ll be very direct about you.
3. Disciplined and ambitious by nature, so he’ll be strict about his goals and have lots of ambition.
4. He’s soft only for you. The outside world gets a serious face, while you get the quiet vulnerability, the forehead kisses, and the rare smile he doesn’t give everyone. That exclusivity hits different.
5. Dobermans are one of the most intelligent dog breeds, and so are these types of boyfriends. He thinks before reacting, plans ahead, and handles problems calmly. He’s the “don’t worry, I got it” type.

Over the last 15 years, I have mainly dated Labrador personalities. The thing about them, though, is they’re just too excitable, boyish, and while lovely, they are a bit too kind for my liking.

I’ve had the joy of dating just one Doberman boyfriend. Our relationship lasted a year, and I still greatly admire him. He was so protective, but in a very masculine way. I could wear what I wanted because his eyes made others back off.

When I looked at him, I could see the happy little light shine in his eyes for a brief second. Having such exclusive access to him made him even more sexually arousing.

His intelligence matched mine, and our conversations and planning always worked out for us. Productive we were.

In the bedroom, he would dominate me, and I’d lick his feet had he asked, but he never did. 

I can still see myself, on my knees for him. A free-use little slut for him to fuck whenever he wanted.

Sadly, I’ll admit that Mr Doberman and I went our separate ways, but I still look for him in every man. Hoping the stern man in the corner quietly will light up with a slight grin when he sees me.

What type of personality do you like to date? Let me know by emailing your reasons to vavaviolett@outlook.com

Written by VavaViolet Magazine’s Founder and Editor-in-Chief, Sophie Blackman.

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