Celebrity dating coach, expert and author James Preece is answering how to get your partner to cut down on their porn intake in his column this week.
James was approached by Molly* (identities will always be kept anonymous). She asked how to get her “porn-obsessed” partner to cut down on watching adult videos
She wrote: “My partner is obsessed with porn. How do I get them to cut down?”
James responded: “Many people watch a little porn, but too much can cause problems and even become addictive. While it’s not exactly cheating, it can have a huge effect on intimacy, trust and the desire to have real sex.
“The first thing to do is to gently explain to your partner that it’s becoming an issue. Don’t make it into a big thing, but let them know you are feeling disconnected or unloved.
“You want to be involved, and porn makes you replaceable.”
He continued: “You then both need to agree on exactly what cutting down looks like. Set clear boundaries and ensure they are adhered to. For example, there could be rules that they’ll only watch twice a week or won’t do it when you are together. No more lying or denying it’s happening.
“What is most important is that you both prioritise sex and emotional intimacy. Make time in your diary for this so it’s something to look forward to.
“If they won’t listen and things get worse, then it’s worth their getting professional support on this. Any addiction starts off small, but can grow bigger.”
By Celebrity Dating Coach & Relationship Expert James Preece.
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