Asset Answers with Dating Expert James Preece: 'How do I stop wasting time on the wrong guys?'

Celebrity dating coach, expert and author James Preece (and our very own agony uncle) is answering how we can stop wasting time on the wrong dates in his column this month. 

The dating coach is highly established in the industry, boasting 16 years of experience across over 50 dating companies.

Unlike many dating coaches, James caters for both men and women. Hence, everyone is welcome to send their dilemmas to VavaViolet Magazine - this was very important to us. Thus, there was no better fit than James. 

The author also has 14 best-selling dating books for sale on Amazon.

He boasts numerous success stories through his coaching, and his single events are the best in the country for connecting with like-minded individuals. 

For this month's dilemma, James was approached by Seema* (identities will always be kept anonymous). She asked how to stop wasting time on the wrong guys.

Here's Seema's story:

Dear James, 

I'm starting to think I've got a problem, as I keep making terrible dating choices and end up wasting time with the wrong guys!  

What can I do to change this?

Thanks,

Seema

James advised,

Hi Seema,

Thank you very much for the question. 

I'd suggest that you get clear about the type of guy you want to be in your life. 

Don't just think about how they look, but also about their personality. Do you want someone kind, family-minded, and hard-working, for example? 

If something is important to you, then write it down.  

Then consider what your values, interests and life goals are. For example, do you like to keep active or perhaps have children in a few years? 

If they aren't aligned with the men you are dating, then it's doomed before it even begins.

We often don't believe anyone will want to date us, so we set low standards. So, I'd like you to give some thought to what you have to offer someone. 

It's only by understanding your strengths that you'll stop putting other people on pedestals. 

You deserve to be happy, which means you shouldn't settle for anything less. 

Yes, a little compromise is necessary as nobody is perfect. However, you can't enter a relationship hoping or expecting that they will change. I can guarantee that they won't.

If you keep on letting the wrong men into your life, then there won't be any room for a good one. 

It's better to hold out and be single a little longer so you can find the right person.

I hope that helps!

James

By Celebrity Dating Coach & Relationship Expert James Preece.

From not being able to score a date to an array of issues in your love life, James is here to solve it all for you. 

Simply email your dilemma to vavaviolett@outlook.com for free advice from a professional.