Sex is one of the most natural things you will ever do in your entire life, so it's no wonder we fall into bed with strangers on the first date.
It's an act of comfort, pleasure, and in some cases love. Some say you should only have sex when it is an act of love. But sex is a personal act to all of us; it's up to you as an individual to decide what it means to you.
To me, it's something that I not only savour but also makes me feel sanguine. I'm at my most confident while having sex, so why would I not want to enjoy that as much as I can? The word 'slut', I'm sure, will come into some minds while reading that last line, but that word, over time, means nothing to me.
What is wrong with doing it for the hell of it? What is really wrong with having a little fun? The thrill of a stranger's hands all over you after a hot, sweaty night in a club, with some guy that you went on a date with and knew you wouldn't see again, or on a first date that went perfectly? You're not less of a woman or man for getting under those sheets, for being fondled against a wall, or doing it in the back of a car.
But sometimes it can go wrong, you don't know this person or their intentions. You don't know whether they have an STD, a criminal record, or whether they put their cups down on coasters. If you're going to do the deed with someone you just met, then be my guest; it's your life, just do it with care and respect for yourself.
A woman can sleep with whom she wants, when she wants, as long as she is safe. As long as you use protection - especially with a 'stranger', and that someone knows exactly where you are, even if that means quickly texting an address to a friend, and as long as you respect yourself to make sure these things are in place as a precaution, then live your life as you please.
You are not a slut for living this way, but you're an idiot if you don't do it as safely as you possibly can.
Written by VavaViolet Magazine's Editor-in-Chief, Sophie Blackman.
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