"My father spoils me and never says no. So why would I date someone who doesn't provide?"

There is a controversial debate on whether men are still providers or not, and in my opinion, they have the right these days to decide that for themselves. However, they have to consider the dating tax bracket and realise not all women want a man who doesn’t provide. As someone who has always been spoiled by her father, who highly enjoys providing, I wouldn’t touch a man who hated the concept. 

Some men genuinely enjoy working hard and spoiling their woman. They see it as their job, and as long as they’re not sexist about it, what’s the harm? 

The same goes for women who want to stay home, cook, clean and raise their kids. It’s their right to choose how they want to live their lives. 

Yet the two roles seem to be becoming more “old-fashioned”, and I’m not here for it. 

I’m okay with saying what I expect from the man who expects me to carry and birth his children and then raise them for 18 years. 

What do I expect? Of course, respect, trust, etc, but I expect him to be a provider. As they say, if he wants a housewife, he needs a house. 

I’m not ridiculous. I wouldn’t expect a mansion, but I do expect him to provide a safe home so I can keep it well cared for. Absolutely. 

My friends joke that I have a knack for finding sugar daddies and men who will happily provide for me, and it’s because I respect men and let them be in their masculine energy, as long as they’re creating a safe environment for me to be my most feminine self. 

I accept that they tend to be physically stronger than we are and have a better ability to protect us. 

They’re not smarter than us. On that note, I believe we’re equals, but we can also provide for them. 

What do we provide? Children, obviously, but more than that. We’re their therapists, a gentle listening ear.

While men are stronger, women tend to have higher emotional intelligence - don’t shoot me for saying it, shoot all the studies that say so. 

There’s a saying that “a good woman is the best investment a man can make”, and it’s very true. 

Women, when safe in their femininity, are very giving creatures - and yes, that includes sexually, but more than that, we spoil men too!

You just have to be a provider to see that...

Written by VavaViolet Magazine's Founder and Editor-in-Chief, Sophie Blackman