Whether you’re a masturbation beginner or a regular, there are many benefits to getting yourself off - it’s a natural mood-booster and helps build intimacy with your partner.
Here are six tips to help you orgasm every single time you masturbate.
Begin with your clitoris
The clit is a great place to start because many women have experienced orgasm through clitoral stimulation.
Jess Wilde, a bondage and fetish expert at Lovehoney, suggests beginning with gentle circular movements around the clitoris.
Begin with a gentle touch and gradually increase pressure as you discover what feels most comfortable and pleasurable for you.
It’s also helpful to notice which areas are most sensitive—many people find the lower-left part of the clitoris especially responsive.
If direct stimulation feels too intense, you can try gliding your fingers along the inner labia and around the sides of the clitoris, moving downward toward the vaginal opening.
Another option is to touch yourself through a thin layer, like a sheet or fabric, to soften the sensation.
Try incorporating internal stimulation
Some people with vaginas choose not to include penetration when masturbating, but if you’re curious to try it, you can begin by gently moving your fingers in and out of your vagina while also stimulating your clitoris.
Rachel Venning, co-founder of Babeland, suggests starting by sliding a finger between your labia to open up, adding a bit of lubricant, and then moving your fingers back and forth between your vaginal opening and clitoris without going inside right away—teasing the sensation first.
You can then try inserting one finger, gradually adding more, curling them slightly as you move them in and out.
You might also explore using penetrative toys, such as G-spot vibrators, or dual-stimulation options like rabbit vibrators, especially if you find you enjoy both internal and clitoral stimulation at the same time.
Try hands-free humping
While some people prefer using their hands or toys during masturbation, others may enjoy grinding against an object instead.
Orgasm equality blogger Trisha Borowicz suggests choosing something soft, like a pillow or stuffed toy.
Lie face down with your vulva resting on it, and gently move your hips against it.
You can adjust the pressure, positioning, and even the shape of the object until it feels pleasurable.
Once you find a rhythm that works for you, maintain it, breathe deeply, and let yourself build toward orgasm.
Switch positions
People have different preferences when it comes to positioning during masturbation—some enjoy lying on their back, others prefer being face down and grinding against something, and some may find entirely different positions work better.
Experimenting with various positions can help you discover what feels best for you.
For example, you might try kneeling while pressing your clitoris against a vibrator, shifting into a doggy-style position, or even exploring stimulation while standing in the shower.
Use sex toys
You don’t have to use sex toys to masturbate, but they can add to the experience and may help some people reach orgasm more easily.
There are many types of vibrators available to suit different preferences, including wand-style devices, clitoral suction toys, internal G-spot vibrators, and dual-stimulation options like rabbit vibrators.
If you’re just starting out and unsure what to choose, it can be helpful to look into beginner-friendly vibrator recommendations.
Experiment with different erogenous zones
Masturbation doesn’t have to focus only on the genitals, so it’s worth exploring other areas of your body as well.
Sex educator Florence Barkway suggests using one hand to stimulate the clitoris while the other gently touches different parts of your body, as this can heighten sensation and make orgasms more intense.
Carol Queen, PhD, co-author of The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone, also recommends incorporating nipple stimulation or touching areas like your butt or upper thighs to discover what feels pleasurable.
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